Self-care, a novel idea for most of you. For me too, but I’m learning. As a nurse, we tell our families they need to take of themselves so they can take care of their loved ones when they are better. We forget to take our own advice.
What does putting yourself first mean to you? When was the last time you were first in your life? You’re probably asking yourself, how can I put myself first? I don’t have the time. Really? What if you look at what you consider your priorities? “What?” you say. Everything I do NEEDS to be done. Is that really 100% true? Everything may need to be done in your book, but the question is, when? Today, tomorrow, now? The kids need me, I have commitments at work, my husband or wife needs me to do blah, I have to wash my hair…. I know all the excuses, I’ve used them all (well most of them anyway).
When ARE you first? When do you get to take a moment, minutes, an hour, just for you? When your tank is filled up, you then have the capacity to actually give more. Look at the times you’ve reached your breaking point. Chances are, if you had a moment or longer to yourself that breaking point wouldn’t have happened.
The biggest point in all this is……you DESERVE to have those moments to yourself. Stop over scheduling, stop meeting everybody else’s needs before yours. You DESERVE a life that doesn’t “belong” to anyone else. You DESERVE to be first after all these years. You DESERVE to be rich with self-care to give more to everyone else.
WHEN WILL YOU START COMING FIRST? When will the excuses stop? I’d love to hear your comments