My husband is trying to get my attention. I am on my phone again, texting someone back in a conversation that I don’t want to let go. He is starting to get annoyed, for obvious reasons. He wants a face to face chat with me. For some reason he enjoys my company. LOL
It would seem that effective communications should be a snap in today’s electronically obsessed society. However, the opportunities for miscommunication and misunderstanding are rampant via our efforts to convey verbal message through abbreviations, acronyms and Emoji symbols. Tiny keyboards and distracted typing often lead to frustration when your intention is to say one thing and the message reads something else.
You can communicate more clearly and effectively whether it is with your co-workers, boss, spouse, or kids. Think of communication as a game or a dance, whichever you are more comfortable with. As in any group dynamic, one person is actively performing a function…as in speaking, while another is observing, absorbing and reacting to the first person. Neither party is passive in the activity as both have a role to play in making the activity a successful experience.
To achieve effective communication, the speaker must not only deliver the message clearly with appropriate body language along with listening for reactions while she is speaking. And the person being addressed by the speaker must practice engaged listening to receive the words spoken, the energy of the words and the emotional impact of the message.
While there are those who pride themselves on being to multi-task, the practice of effective communication calls for a temporary moratorium on splitting your focus in order to concentrate on the conversation taking place in the present moment. In other words, put down the cell phone, stop reading e-mail, close the computer, and make eye contact with the person talking to you. You may hear something you’ve never heard before.
…And felt. Emotions seem more real when spoken